Financial avoidance isn't a failure—it's often a protective response to overwhelm, anxiety, or past money wounds. Especially in California's high-cost, high-pressure environment, it’s easy to feel stuck in shame or freeze. At Koru Financial Therapy, we help individuals and couples gently unpack their money stories, especially when ADHD or relational stress is part of the picture. Through trauma-informed care, including ART and ACT modalities, healing is possible, starting with compassion.

Financial secrecy—like hidden debt, secret spending, or unspoken windfalls—can quietly unravel the trust in your relationship. In California, where community property laws add legal weight to financial decisions, the stakes are even higher. This guide explores the emotional toll of financial secrets, signs to watch for, and how couples can heal through therapy, open communication, and shared values.